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    Discernment Counseling

    Feeling Stuck in Your Relationship? Discover Discernment Counseling

    Are you or your partner unsure about the future of your relationship? If you’re feeling stuck between keeping things as they are, working on the relationship, or considering an amicable divorce, Discernment Counseling may be the support you need.

    What is Discernment Counseling?

    Discernment Counseling is a specialized process for couples where one partner feels uncertain about continuing the relationship while the other is more invested in repairing it. This approach offers a structured, compassionate space to explore your options—whether to try rebuilding your relationship, move toward divorce, or take time before making a decision.

    Unlike traditional marriage counseling, the goal of Discernment Counseling is not to solve relationship problems but to help you determine whether they can be solved. Through this process, you’ll gain clarity, confidence, and a deeper understanding of your relationship’s potential.

    How Does Discernment Counseling Work?

    • Respect for Both Perspectives: As your counselor, I will honor both partners’ viewpoints—acknowledging the feelings of the partner “leaning out” while supporting the partner “leaning in.”
    • Individual Focus: Although you’ll attend sessions as a couple, much of the work involves individual conversations. This ensures each person’s concerns and hopes are explored in depth.
    • Clarity and Confidence: Together, we’ll evaluate the health of your relationship, identify areas of possibility, and help you decide on the best path forward.

    What to Expect in Sessions

    Discernment Counseling is brief, typically lasting 5-7 sessions, with each session running 50 minutes. This limited timeframe is designed to give you the space to reflect without feeling rushed while working toward a clear decision.

    Supporting All Outcomes

    For couples deciding to separate or divorce, Discernment Counseling can help you:

    • Address communication issues related to separation decisions.
    • Create co-parenting strategies to minimize the impact on children.
    • Transition from hurt and anger to effective and constructive co-parenting.

    When Discernment Counseling May Not Be Appropriate

    This process is not suitable if:

    • One partner has already made a final decision to divorce.
    • There is coercion to participate.
    • There is a risk of domestic violence.

    Take the First Step Toward Clarity

    If you and your partner are feeling stuck and unsure about the future, Discernment Counseling can help you find the clarity and confidence you need to move forward. Contact me today to schedule a consultation and begin exploring your path.

    Your future doesn’t have to feel uncertain—let’s work together to find the best path for you.